The Relationship Problems thread

[CuBuLo]

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[KJ DOGA]

So I just broke up with this girl I started dating about a month and a week ago. Basically, she seemed really nice and cool when I first started hanging out with her, and when we started dating she was in to it as normal. For a while now she has been hanging out with this extremely trashy girl who I really didn't like, (high school dropout, hang around doing nothing with no life plans kinda person). The more I started hanging out with her, the more trashy the girl I was dating started to seem. She doesn't do drugs but she does smoke cigarettes every once in a while. But recently I realized that this girl she has been hanging out with has really been starting to negatively influence her. Also, she seemed to stop being as enthusiastic about our relationship.

So I found out tonight that she had basically wanted to break up with me for about 2 weeks. I had jung out with her by accident tonight, and I really started to see the trashiness in her, and that she has a pretty un-conventional un-organized corrupted family life. She really has the potential to be a decent person, but I really feel like she is heading down the wrong path. Her friend was apparently going to have a party in a sketchy hotel room with a bunch of people with a bunch of psychedelic drugs, and now I feel like she is going to fall in to this ****. I DID brake up with her tonight, even though she wanted to for 2 weeks, she said that she "doesn't know where she is now". I can't help but to wish that I could help her, and I really feel worried. Im a really emotional guy, and I just don't know how to react fully. Idk.

Pretend shes not there.....works everytime.

[BurnerMan54]

Oh dear...

Just saw a picture of a girl i'd been having a crush on for quiet some time. Problem is, it did not work out so well between us. It was pretty impulsive and we had been going through a lot of ups and downs before i cut the contact with her. But when we came along everything was actually really nice.

Now i've seen that picture and as i thought i would have been over it just came over me again. She looks absolutely beautiful and she as been undergoing a change which is quiet amazing.

It is like getting a harpoon directly through the heart, because you know it is over but it is not even a feeling you can control. You just see the person and the way she looks reminds you immediately of the way she talks and acts as a person (and the time you spent with her) but now with the amazing look she has.

Some of you might know this feeling

[something awesome]

Oh dear...

Just saw a picture of a girl i'd been having a crush on for quiet some time. Problem is, it did not work out so well between us. It was pretty impulsive and we had been going through a lot of ups and downs before i cut the contact with her. But when we came along everything was actually really nice.

Now i've seen that picture and as i thought i would have been over it just came over me again. She looks absolutely beautiful and she as been undergoing a change which is quiet amazing.

It is like getting a harpoon directly through the heart, because you know it is over but it is not even a feeling you can control. You just see the person and the way she looks reminds you immediately of the way she talks and acts as a person (and the time you spent with her) but now with the amazing look she has.

Some of you might know this feeling

This exact thing happened to me...It sucks.

[BurnerMan54]

This exact thing happened to me...It sucks.

[something awesome]

Hopefully yours weren't modelling pics though ;_;

[zer0g]

Sorry for the thread bump but...

For the last couple of years I've had this thing for a girl I know. Honestly I've always had something for her, it's just never really turned into a full blown crush until a few summers ago. She's been one of my closest girl friends for most of my life. Going into last school year I told myself I would be more out going, that including taking a chance at getting with her. She ended up getting a boyfriend towards the beginning of the year, but she broke up with him cause he payed more attention to his friends more than her. Anyways that was in the middle of the year, and also during that time I did something else. I'll just be completely honest here so you can know the whole story. I got with someone in the middle of the year that liked me. I didn't feel much for her, but she was nice so I thought I should be nice and give her a chance, since I personally know the feeling of no one even giving you a shot. So up until mid February I was with someone while still loving someone else from afar. Yes you can call me a d*ck and all that, and I'll completely understand. I truly feel bad because of it and I deserve to be looked at like an a**hole. Things just got crossed up in my mind. I just want people to know that's not my true mentality. I tried to be nice to someone and ended up looking like jerk. I didn't want to be seen as that, cause deep down behind all my jokes and my eccentric personality I'm a deep and kind person. So yeah, I can go on all day saying I'm sorry, but I'll continue where I left off.

My crush noticed I wasn't being my true self, and she wouldn't stop asking who I was really falling for. It was on Valentines Day that I finally told her. The smile on her face when I said it was her, it was the cutest thing I've ever seen. She was flattered and we decided to keep it to ourselves, and also to not ruin our friendship, which I was worried would happen if I ever tried something. Me and my then girlfriend faded shortly after that. Over the course of the year my crush didn't seem to ever talk to me, in fact it seemed like she was ignoring me. I had feared this since the start, so I knew I really screwed up. When we did end up start chatting again I found it was because I made things kinda weird between us, obviously.

During the year on early release days we would usually hang out with a group of friends after school. A lot of the time everyone left besides the two of us. One day I had to ask her, if I were to ask her out as I originally planned would she even say yes? She told me honestly, no. For she had just broken up with her then boyfriend at the time. It would've been too soon...

Late in the year she told me she planned to move to London, England, of all places. She later told me she wasn't sure if she'll move, but she was sure she would transfer. On the last day I told her I was sorry, for everything. She said it was fine, it wasn't as much as a problem for her as it was for me. In a bit of a fake joking way I said my "goodbye" and a quick "I'll miss you". We said our last "goodbyes" and that was it. Or so I assumed.

I thought I would have to move on until a few days ago. While picking up our schedules for this year, I thought I saw her, but I wasn't sure. I thought I was just telling myself things. It was until later when my friends told me that they had seen her. So that means she's back.


It's a long story, I know. For those of you who didn't say TL;DR I want to ask you. It's been a while, so should I just give up right now? Or should I try my luck again? I've never felt this deep for someone before. And you might be thinking "ohh, just some kid in love, he doesn't knoww true love" and yeah you're probably right. Just want some advice though, so thanks.

[needlessnoise]

I know a girl who only comes by where I live for the summers, she lives two states away the rest of the year. She lived around here a couple years ago, then she moved, and she visits her grandparents here on breaks. The romantic tension between us is like, palpable. She really obviously likes me (REALLY OBVIOUSLY) but I'm done with the long distance stuff, so I don't think it'll work out. which sucks, because is the closest thing I've had to ANY romantic prospect in a while.

[M3311]

If she "obviously" likes you, ask her out. The tension is "palpable" after all.

[DJ_Sam_909]

@zer0g How long has it been since you last saw her? Had you been keeping in touch with her? Because if she hadn't told you she was coming back then that's pretty much a warning sign right there and it might not be such a good idea. Try and find out how she actually feels about you. Unfortunately, since she said that you made things weird between the two of you I think it's unlikely she likes you that way but things change, so you never know!

You may think that because you're young that you don't know what true love is but the honest truth is that NOBODY knows what true love is. You only know what you feel and you have the freedom to interpret those feelings however you want. If you really feel that way about her then my advice is to do something about it otherwise you'll kick yourself later for not doing something about it. Worst case scenario is that you'll get rejected, but then (as hard as it may be, but not impossible as I know from experience) you can begin to get over her and try to find someone else.